The true impact of how you lead lies in your ‘leadership score’

What if, in attempting to measure impact, we began to think about leadership as a different type of score — a musical score — where emitting the right chords has the potential to attract the most talented people, assemble teams who outperform, and inspire confidence and commitment, particularly during a time when cultivating trust online and via social media platforms is increasingly essential? A musical metaphor is particularly apt when you consider how virtuoso musicians evolve their performance expression over time to suit different audiences, incorporate evolving trends, and tap into new creative energies. But in addition to being expressive and adaptable, a good musician — like a good leader — must also embody an additional set of qualities that are easy to remember for their important function in the process of music-making: range, rhythm, representation, and reach. 


A musician like the Grammy Award-winning American singer and songwriter Brandi Carlile, for example, has adapted her musical repertoire over the years by keenly observing the routines of other performers, including Elton John, Dolly Parton, Joni Mitchell, and Mavis Staples. While always maintaining her identifiable voice, Carlile’s singing range has acquired more resonant pitch, elucidation, and interpretation over the years. She’s gained competence across many rhythmic genres including country, rock, R&B, gospel, and improvised syncopations.  Whether she’s a soloist, singing a 3-part harmony with her bandmates, or jamming with a stage full of musicians of all backgrounds, these representations allow broad audiences to “see themselves on the stage” and thereby feel a deeper emotional connection to her music and its meaning. Her intentional collaborations with varied artists like Alicia Keys, Dave Mathews,  Indigo Girls, Pearl Jam and symphony orchestras have expanded her reach from small coffee houses to sold-out concerts in premiere venues and across video streams worldwide, creating community and cultivating new audiences as she goes. 

In reviewing the body of work leading up to my TED talk and coaching programs developed for leaders of various demographics in the private, public and non-profit sectors, I see these four elements as positive impact indicators that consistently show up in the repertoires of the successful leaders with whom I’ve worked over the past three decades.

These leaders demonstrate an expressive range by using tonal variety and oratorical force to create a soaring energy that fosters unexpected connection and creates an aura of intimacy that pulls people in. They successfully utilize rhythm by adjusting to new contexts and different paces and pressures seamlessly — their expansive set of experiences and interests allows them to presciently see trends to manifest successes while also fluidly navigating setbacks. Good leaders understand the importance of mobilizing their followers through representation — the diversity of the people that they surround themselves with in order to uncover and achieve atypical, trailblazing outcomes — and also make it a point to have others’ contributions explicitly represented in the final product and forward path. Finally, impactful leaders have a reach that is defined not by the number of people who report to them, but rather by how many people they convene with convincing influence and uncompromised ethics. They expand this reach by seeking “outside-your-usual circle” partners who cooperate to make more happen than each party could on their own. 

These four elements — range, rhythm, representation, and reach — provide a structure that we can use to better gauge the impact of our own personal leadership styles. We can start to understand these four principles more clearly when we look back on the exemplars who came before us — those who have left an indelible, soul-piercing mark on us through brief encounters that continue to shape our beliefs and values years later. Reconnecting with an exemplar’s imprint reminds us of the essence of our best leadership expressions, and the recollected memory also serves as a prism by which we can retool our current leadership approach to meet the moment we’re facing. 


In conducting this type of heartfelt, insistent scrutiny on myself, I frequently draw on memories of my own Puerto Rican maternal family elders, who provided formative, grounding examples of leadership that continue to inform what I value in myself as I continue to evolve my own leadership practice today. My mother Crimilda’s range made her the dynamic diva at any party. Her mastery of cadence and intonation in her voice made her a captivating narrator. Whether teaching students, leading family holiday cheers, reciting heartfelt poems, or holding a congregation in reverent prayer, my mother’s vocal range nuances enthralled listeners. She recited Latin American poems with gestures, facial expressions and vocalizations that always upped the energy in the room whether from tears of sadness or joy. At times of crushing tragedy, she would interject humor to unexpectedly good effect whether in person or on the phone. My heartiest laughter was evoked by my mother.

My younger aunt, Alicia, was situationally, rhythmically confident. When we were growing up, she would let me accompany her to outside-our-neighborhood bodegas to try egg cream sodas and flavored bubble gums — delicacies to us, not available at home. In the library, she paraded me to multiple floors of books from different genres. Her career path was eclectic, and she pursued and excelled in jobs across domains as different as publishing, community service, media, politics, and collections. She was a fast learner and moved seamlessly from executive assistant positions to leadership roles, to producing and policy making. In conversations today, we still explore off-the-beaten path topics.

My older aunt, Titi Mary, is central to our family, and mouthwatering smells from her delicious sancocho, pasteles, and pernil bring a motley representation of people to her kitchen table. The spread is dispensed with family folklore, conjuring up those beloved members who have passed, as if channeling and infusing their energy within us. She pulls people in, even when aggressively confronted by others’ imperfections. Her compassionate and cheerful manner is like a big, inclusive “abrazo fuerte” to others who in turn, tightly embrace her. In her 80’s, she is still bonding so many to her and each other. To taste her cooking is to savor her love.

And finally, my grandmother, Sol, was a shy, unassuming woman, but her reach was proactive and long lasting. As a single mother, transplanted from Puerto Rico to New York City, she linked up with her siblings’ families to expand the resources and caregiving available to her children. My grandmother’s impact was direct and measurable — her children attained more in life than many would have expected given dire social and economic beginnings. Grandmother Sol, which translates to Sun,  showed that one’s indirect reach is both illuminating and generative when the gain is communally beneficial.


In these vignettes, I am attempting to conjure the temperaments of these family members in order to illustrate that an imprint left by a great leader stays with you for the duration of your experience. It internally transforms you. Although our own expressions of these values will always be unique to us, fine-tuning our leadership score is a process of study, reflection, intention, and practice, and there are good questions you can use to score your own leadership playbook. 

When thinking about range, ask yourself what you’re trying to communicate, and if the mood you’re creating is appropriate to the moment. Is your language poetic or platitudinal? What brings your stories to life? What props or digital tools/platforms increase the emotional and rational resonance of your message? Do your messages invite people to join you or coerce them to comply? How do you know people are feeling confident they can contribute to the mission or strategy? 

In considering rhythm, reflect on how many different communities, cultures and institutions you’ve interacted with, and how many functional disciplines you’ve traversed. How many growth, turnaround, and crises contexts have you led in? How varied are your information sources? What analytical or intuitive algorithms inform your decisions? What new publications, music, recreational activities have you discovered? Are your selected podcasts, websites, and video streams reinforcing or expanding your views? Who are people that you are curious about and want to get to know better?

When scoring yourself on representation, ask yourself to reflect honestly on the diversity of the people around your leadership table and in key influence roles: 

  • 1. During major gatherings, who shares the stage with you? 
  • 2. Who speaks for the organization when engaging with external audiences? 
  • 3. What is the diversity of the characters featured in the stories you tell? 
  • 4. In your meetings, how much time is your voice heard compared to others? 
  • 5. How often do you say the names and contributions of others who enable what you’re trying to achieve?

And finally, in measuring your own reach, reflect on who you would follow if you did not have the title that you do. How do you describe the benefit of collaborating with you, and what would cause you to lose credibility? How many partnerships are outside your organization? How are you augmenting the capabilities of others? To what extent do your partners’ followers follow you? How open are you to new ideas and challenges from the broader followership? What are non-negotiable values or principles when establishing your partnerships? How will you address any fallout if a partner you’ve collaborated with suffers reputational damage?


Returning to the initial question of how you measure your leadership impact, it’s not that quantitative outcomes don’t matter — they just don’t reveal enough about your actual leadership, or about what makes you, specifically, someone to believe in and commit to. Determining the musical score of your leadership is based on more subjective indicators, like the lasting feelings you evoke and what people choose to take with them and incorporate into their own systems and processes. Describing Brandi Carlile’s impact, Brittney Spencer, an early-career musician, once said: “Brandi’s level of musicality makes you want to bring your best game in her presence. And her generosity is the kind that spikes other people’s capacity and desire to give. She has an understated magical ability that compels others to show up as their best, most authentic, and most innovative self”. That sounds like an excellent, highly impactful, leadership score to me.

Tuning your musical leadership score culminates in amplified, not imagined, impact. Perfecting your leadership score is not about you as an orchestra leader directing everyone else’s performance; it’s about you as a performer, tuning your self-expression in ways that lift and inspire those around you to elevate a vision with their own contributions.


Roselinde Torres has been a trusted advisor to private, public, and nonprofit sector leaders enabling them to imagine and achieve their leadership ambitions. Her TED talk “What it takes to be a great leader” has received around six million views. She serves as a Trustee of the Wildlife Conservation Society and has been a Nationswell Council Member since 2015. The author is grateful to Familia elders for their ever resonant scores, Brandi Carlile for multiform musicality, Brian Carson, Phil Cook, Caroline Mak, Brianna Provenzano and Anthony Smith for bettering this composition, and Tammy Conley for resounding belief.

The business case for increasing investment in the 50-plus

Change is constant in business. There are always new ideas, new products, new ways to work better. That’s how it should be. Businesses and non-profit organizations get themselves into trouble when they think they have it all figured out. Comfortable companies get complacent, and those that grow rigid risk ruining their reputations as thought-leaders. By contrast, organizations that embrace change stay innovative and agile. 

That is what we have seen over the last year and a half. Rigid companies that resisted change suffered—revenue plummeted, employees resigned, and some even went out of business—while businesses that adapted quickly survived and in some cases thrived during the pandemic and gained new strategies and tools to use for the future. 


That is not to say that there were no bumps along the way for the organizations that navigated the rough seas successfully. The pandemic caught many of us off guard (even though the scientific community had, in fact, warned us something like this could happen). 

We do not want to be caught off guard again. One giant trend is coming, and in many ways, is already upon us. Every company, board director, and leader should ensure their business has a strategy to seize its possibilities for growth. 

That trend is the unprecedented aging of the population. With life expectancies on the rise and birth rates declining, the growth of the older population is steadily outpacing that of younger generations around the world. People aged 60 and over already account for more than one billion of the world’s population; this age group is expected to double—to over two billion—by 2050. Not only are we aging, but in many places, we are living longer than previous generations. In countries where people are aging well, more than half of children born today are projected to live to see their 100th birthday.

What if leaders miscalculate, underestimate, or even worse—ignore this major demographic shift? Businesses that miss out on the aging population will be in crisis, and the risk to organizations and their bottom line could be catastrophic. 

That said, crises can be opportunities—but only for those leaders who are prepared. What do businesses need to do to be prepared? 

First, awareness and understanding

As organizations face immediate and unprecedented economic challenges due to the coronavirus pandemic, it is a critical time to recognize the growing aging population as part of a strategy for economic recovery and growth. The truth is, this is an opportunity—a multi-trillion-dollar market opportunity. Older adults are consumers, taxpayers, workers, and business owners. Many also add massive value through volunteering and serving as family caregivers. The purchasing power of older adults generates significant tax revenue, creates jobs, and creates stability in other important areas, like health care, housing, and transportation for essential workers, families, veterans, and small business owners, all of whom were very hard hit by the pandemic.

Business leaders, therefore, must embrace longevity. Here are three reasons why:

It’s good for businesses.
If the 50-plus population comprised a country, its economy would be the third biggest in the world (after the U.S. and China). People aged 50 and older have massive purchasing power, which creates jobs and opportunities across all generations, grows revenue, and fuels and sustains businesses of all sizes. According to AARP’s Longevity Economy Outlook, the economic contribution of the 50-plus population was worth $8.3 trillion in 2018. Fifty-six cents of every dollar was spent by someone over the age of 50. By 2050, their economic impact is expected to more than triple to $26.8 trillion, and 61 cents of every dollar will be spent by someone over the age of 50. Businesses that are ready to catch this wave will sail right past their competition.

It’s good for governments.
The 50-plus population (which make up 35 percent of the U.S. population) is also a major source of revenue for federal, state, and local governments to provide the services and infrastructure businesses and communities count on.  Nearly half of federal revenues in 2018, or $1.4 trillion, came from the 50-plus cohort —a figure set to nearly quadruple to $5.5 trillion by 2050. We see a similar picture with regards to state finances. The 50-plus cohort is responsible for almost $650 billion in state revenues today. By 2050, its contribution is forecast to approach $2.4 trillion. Business and public leaders can work together to invest those resources in our communities to grow a stronger, healthier economy for everyone.

It’s good for individuals of all ages.
As people live longer, many will either want or need to continue working. Studies have shown that working past age 65 is linked to better health and longevity. Not only that, studies show that age-inclusive companies report higher worker satisfaction across the board, and satisfied workers are more committed, creative, and productive. That is not the only way they add value. Older workers also contribute experience to multi-generational teams, participate in encore careers, and lead in entrepreneurship.


Next, take decisive action

It is clear why businesses should embrace a strategy for the longevity economy. Each and every business stands to gain from tapping into the opportunities of the 50-plus market. To maximize that longevity dividend, though, we must act now. Government leaders, business leaders, non-profit leaders, and each of us as individual leaders have a role to play. For example,  private-sector leaders and product developers must think past outdated stereotypes when creating solutions. And advertisers must authentically represent the full spectrum of living as people age. We must all work together to test and develop new approaches to learning, earning, living, and connecting with each other as we live longer lives. 

Change is constant in business, and innovation is not just for products. Even long-established organizations boasting household names need to stay flexible, adaptive, and innovative to seize new opportunities. By building a workplace culture that embraces change, we can continue to meet our clients and customers where they are while setting the pace as thought leaders in our fields.


Finally, a radical thought

Your customers are aging, yet there is no longevity crisis. There is only a longevity opportunity, which benefits businesses, communities, and governments. And that opportunity is just waiting for you to embrace it. So will you?

To Build It Back Better, Give Ourselves Permission to Feel

For #BuildItBackBetter, NationSwell asked some of our nation’s most celebrated purpose-driven leaders how they’d build a society that is more equitable and resilient than the one we had before COVID-19. We have compiled and lightly edited their answers.

This article is part of the #BuildItBackBetter track “The Relational Era: Building a Culture of Connection, Bridging and Belonging” — presented in partnership with Einhorn Collaborative.

Let’s get the obvious question out of the way first: What’s up with that title? Since when does anybody need permission to feel? True, we all have feelings more or less continuously, every waking moment without ever asking or getting anyone’s approval. To stop feeling would be like to stop thinking, eating or breathing. Not possible.

Our emotions are a big part — maybe the biggest part — of what makes us human. And yet we go through life trying hard to pretend otherwise. 

Too often we do our best to deny or hide our feelings—even from ourselves. Our mindsets about them get passed along to our children, who learn by watching and listening to us, their caregivers and teachers—their role models. Our kids receive the message loud and clear, so that before long, they, too, have learned to suppress even the most urgent messages from deep inside. 

So we deny ourselves — and one another — permission to feel. We toughen up, squash it down and behave irrationally. We avoid the difficult conversation with a loved one; we explode at a colleague; and we go through an entire bag of chips and have no idea why. When we deny ourselves the permission to feel, a long list of unwanted outcomes ensues. We lose the ability to even perceive what we’re feeling — it’s like, without noticing, we go a little numb inside. When that happens, we’re unable to understand what’s happening in our lives that’s causing it. Because of that we’re unable to label it, so we can’t express it clearly, either, in ways the people around us would understand.

And when we can’t identify how we feel, it’s impossible for us to do anything productive about our feelings: to use them wisely — to accept and embrace them all. In order to build a culture of connection, bridging, and belonging – in our homes, schools, workplaces and communities – we must learn to make our emotions work for us, not against us.

I’ve spent the last 25 years trying to unpack these issues. Through academic research and plenty of real-life experience, especially in the world of education. I also have a personal interest in the bad things that happen when we deny ourselves permission to feel. Meaning I’ve been there, but thanks to a host of interventions and one special person, in particular, I made it out alive. 

Only a few naturally insightful among us can claim to have these “emotion skills” without consciously pursuing them. I had to learn them. And these are real skills. People from all backgrounds with all personality types will find them accessible and even life-changing. And they can be acquired by anyone of almost any age.

These skills can be used privately, but their best application is throughout a community, so that a network emerges to reinforce its own influence. I have seen this happen—our whole-school approach to social and emotional learning, RULER, is being deployed in thousands of schools all over the world, with incredible results. 

A number of years ago, I was training leaders in an underperforming school district. At lunch on the first day, I was standing in the buffet line next to a principal, and to make small talk, I asked him, “So, what do you think about the session so far?” He looked me in the eye, then looked down at the food and said, “The desserts look pretty good.” 

I realized at that moment what I was up against. I’m used to resistance, but his response hit hard. I decided at that moment that I had to reach him. His superintendent was fully on board, but it was clear that we would succeed in this district only if the other 100 leaders were also believers.

At the end of a couple of days of intensive teaching, I took a risk and said to the principal, “The other day, when we met, you weren’t so sure this course was going to work for you. I’m curious, now that you’ve spent two days learning about your own emotional intelligence and how to implement the skills in your school, what do you think?”  He stood up, looked around the room at his colleagues, turned and looked at me, and, honest, he started to cry. He said, “I didn’t know what I didn’t know. Thank you for giving me the permission to feel.” 

Let’s begin there.

Marc Brackett, Ph.D., is the Founder and Director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and a Professor in the Child Study Center of Yale University. He’s also the author of  “Permission To Feel: The Power of Emotional Intelligence to Achieve Well-being and Success.”

To Build It Back Better, Invest in Belonging

For #BuildItBackBetter, NationSwell asked some of our nation’s most celebrated purpose-driven leaders how they’d build a society that is more equitable and resilient than the one we had before COVID-19. We have compiled and lightly edited their answers.

This article is part of the #BuildItBackBetter track “The Relational Era: Building a Culture of Connection, Bridging and Belonging” — presented in partnership with Einhorn Collaborative.

Over the past few decades, the landscape of American civic life has transformed. Participation in key civic institutions such as religious groups and volunteer organizations has plummeted, and our public square has been replaced with online echo chambers.  

But there is still one place in American life where adults of all backgrounds come together to pursue a shared goal: the workplace. Here many of us spend each day working alongside people of different ages, races, ethnicities, gender identities, national origins, and religions.

In many ways, the goal of American companies reflects the motto of the Great American Experiment, “e pluribus unum” (“out of many, one”). They’re tasked with the herculean challenge of forging community and a sense of shared identity among a vastly diverse group of individuals, and each company must find a way to harness the individual strengths of the group to accomplish its collective goals. 

Unfortunately, as American society has been torn apart by polarization and division, workplaces have been finding that they are not immune to these trends.

Over the past few years, employees have become increasingly divided over ideological differences. According to a recent poll, nearly one-third of working Americans are worried that they will miss out on career opportunities or lose their jobs if their political opinions were discovered. This concern is roughly consistent across political orientation, race, gender, and socioeconomic status.

When your workplace has a multiplicity of values and worldviews nested within a culture of outrage and intolerance, you have a tinderbox on your hands. Companies must be proactive in creating cultures that foster openness, intellectual humility, and mutual respect across differences. 

Doing so isn’t just good for our country. It’s also good for your bottom line. Research shows that fostering a sense of belonging within the workplace has a direct impact on improving work performance, motivation, and engagement. 

According to a study conducted by BetterUp, employees who feel a strong sense of belonging show a 56% increase in performance, a 75% decrease in sick days, a 50% reduction in turnover risk compared to peers with a low sense of belonging.

The data is clear: Investing in building a culture of belonging and inclusion pays. 

While there is no quick fix to culture change, there are steps you can take in the right direction. For example, OpenMind offers practical, scalable, and evidence-based tools to foster openness to diverse perspectives and equip people with skills for constructive dialogue. 

OpenMind’s online learning program helps employees understand values and perspectives that differ from their own. It addresses conflicts that tend to arise in diverse workplaces and provides employees with practical skills to navigate differences more effectively.

While our other institutions struggle, workplaces can model what it means to create a space where Americans from all walks of life feel respected, included and heard. Those who move in this direction will surely reap the benefits.

Caroline Mehl is the Co-Founder and Executive Director of OpenMind. You can learn more about her work here.

The Relational Era: What We Need to Build a Culture of Connection, Bridging and Belonging

For #BuildItBackBetter, NationSwell asked some of our nation’s most celebrated purpose-driven leaders how they’d build a society that is more equitable and resilient than the one we had before COVID-19. We have compiled and lightly edited their answers.

No matter who we are, how we live, or what we believe, we all share a deep, instinctual need and capacity for human connection and belonging. It’s at the core of our shared humanity — and baked into our DNA. 

As human beings, we yearn to be in relationship: to feel seen, valued and understood; to inhabit places where we live together, work together and look out for each other; to be part of a community of shared values and aspirations that is bigger than ourselves. 

And yet, we are living in a culture that all too often reinforces just the opposite. A culture that stokes distrust and amplifies divisions. That fuels hyper-individualism and alienates us from ourselves and each other. A culture that creates a distorted sense of belonging for some of us by telling others they don’t belong. 

As we navigate the “twin pandemics” of COVID-19 and racial injustice, we face a fundamental challenge that lies at the heart of all others: a crisis of human connection. 

All around us, we see more and more Americans living in isolation, loneliness, anxiety, and fear. And all too often, our culture reinforces a zero-sum game that seeks to benefit by pulling us further apart — with an “us vs them” mentality that’s eroding our faith in each other, our institutions and the future we seek for our children. 

The sheer speed and scale of these challenges can seem overwhelming, but beneath them lies a simple and inescapable truth: we cannot solve our nation’s most complex and urgent challenges unless we see, hear and understand each other first.

If we want to build it back better, we must draw upon one of the greatest and oldest technologies we have as a species: human connection. Our ability to connect, empathize, build relationships, and collaborate may be our greatest gift. When we start to see ourselves in others and recognize that our own humanity is a reflection of our shared humanity, we begin to shift from a culture of turning on one another to turning toward one another. 

Einhorn Collaborative works with community leaders, researchers, and cultural influencers to help each and every one of us build stronger relationships, embrace our differences, and rediscover our shared values and humanity —with the belief that by doing so, we can find common ground and solve our most urgent challenges together.

Through this Build It Back Better series, The Relational Era: A Culture of Connection, Bridging, and Belonging, we’ll lift up the voices of individuals and communities who are writing a new story of America. We’ll hear bold and practical ideas for what’s needed to build a more inclusive and connected culture from a wide range of vantage points and disciplines, and a through a mix of large public events, intimate working groups, and action-oriented articles. 

We’ll share powerful stories, compelling science and cross-disciplinary research that shows us new ways of living, working and thriving together – by embracing radical bridge-building in our politics, by inspiring interfaith cooperation in our communities, by using ritual in the service of social healing, by fostering intergenerational relationships and igniting a new generation of bridgers, by nurturing emotional intelligence and cultivating moral leadership, by promoting civic love and elevating bright spots of civic renewal. And so much more… 

We believe that addressing America’s crisis of connection and building a true culture of connection, bridging, and belonging is not only critically urgent, but possible — and already underway in communities across our country. 

We believe the prevailing narratives of distrust and division are not only flawed, but reversible. 

And we believe that when we sit down to listen, learn, and share different perspectives, we unlock entirely new ways of seeing ourselves, each other, and the needs and values we share.  

Through this series, we invite you to join us on a journey of envisioning what it will take to build a culture of connection, bridging, and belonging – and to commit to doing this vital work alongside us.

Jenn Hoos Rothberg is Executive Director of Einhorn Collaborative.

How To Shift From Hostility to Empathy in Political Conversations

Political conversation with someone whose views are different than yours are tough.  But even the thorniest divide can be more narrowed if we try “Moral Reframing“.

The technique allows you to identify the moral premise that matters to the other person and then present your idea in a way that makes sense to them.  Watch this video and learn how to closer divides in your politics…and beyond.


This was produced in partnership with the Greater Good Science Center and the Einhorn Family Charitable Trust. Learn more about how you can bridge differences in your life here.

Science Found a Way to Use Broccoli and Carrots to Stop Prejudice

One scientist’s vegetable experiment reveals a way to connect with people who are different from you … and you don’t even have to eat them.

Did you know that your brain has a built-in threat detector?  It’s called the amygdala. When it works well, it protects us from danger but it also creates unconscious bias—the stuff you don’t even know your brain is doing. 

There’s good news. You can re-train your brain to reduce prejudice and bias — and all it takes is a few vegetables.


This was produced in partnership with the Greater Good Science Center and the Einhorn Family Charitable Trust. Learn more about how you can bridge differences in your life here.